If my baby were born at home he/she would be dead....

I cant tell you how many times as a birth professional I hear this statement. Of course, I always have to know where this statement is coming from. So I simply and considerately say, "Oh wow that is scary! What happened to your baby?" 99.99999999% of the time their answer is, "well my baby's cord was wrapped around her neck so I had to go in for a  c-section right away." Of course my questions dont end there. "hmm did your babies heart rate drop?"  "No." "Oh, well then the Ultrasound must have told them it was around the neck then huh?"  "They didn't do an ultrasound." ..... Well as you can guess by this time they are atleast thinking. Which is exactly what I am wanting. I then tell them the little fact that Dr's dont want you to know... "Well you do know that 1 in 3 babies are born with a cord around there neck right? And RARELY ever does anything actually need to be done about it."


So the question now is still WHY would your baby have died? Or would it have at all? Where you told the truth? Im just going to go out on a whim here and say NOPE.... But, but, .... Why would they just say something like that? GREAT QUESTION!!! Im so glad you asked! Hmm where should I start? 1. Impatient Doctor? Does he/she have plans or have you been in labor for more than 12 hours and he just doesnt want to wait around anymore? What an easy way to manipulate a vulnerable woman in labor and tell them that something is wrong with their baby. Of course you are going to jump to do anything to help your baby, and that is a perfect reaction! Here is where we tend to go wrong... BELIEVING EVERYTHING YOUR CARE PROVIDER TELLS YOU!  2. A C-section is more money in there pocket? Need I really say anymore on this?  3. They did something wrong but needed to find someone else to blame it on? Ah, I love to hate this one! Do you EVER hear a care provider take responsibility for their own actions? Of course not, because that means they may be held accountable. So instead they make a woman feel like she is broken! That it is your bodies fault that you didnt dilate... couldnt possibly be the pitocin and the fact that your body and baby were not ready to be in labor... UGH that is a completely different blog post!LADIES,  YOU ARE NOT BROKEN!!  


Doctors and sometimes even midwives bank on you to not know any better for yourself. The only way to change this is to educate yourself as much as you can. Dont put all of your faith in your care provider! Take responsibility... It is your body take charge of it! YOU GET ONE CHANCE TO DO THIS RIGHT.... there are NO Re-Do's!!